CHOOSE YOUR WAY

Hello all,

Actually, our upbringing is a little bit complicated and tricky in South Asia; parents put their incomplete desires onto their children in the form of toys or fun-based activities. Children learn and absorb from their surroundings. Whatever parents provide them, they make up their minds accordingly. Our incomplete desires or unachieved goals are like wanting to be a doctor, singer, architect, or engineer, but circumstances lead us to be a banker, teacher, or a 9-to-5 employee. So we made up our minds to fulfill this ambition in our children.  As parents, we manipulate our children to promote their interests according to our will. These activities draw the attention of the raw mind of a growing kid, and later they become keen on this behavior.

Well, I am not saying that these are not good activities; sometimes it is necessary, but not always. My concern is that we restrict them to a few things and set patterns. I think that is the reason in the third world that thoughts are stereotyped.  Being traditional is not bad, but we need to settle into new requirements that are necessary to live in a society that is not bound to one planet only. Our rigidity may cause difficulty for teenagers to choose the right path at the point of their decision.

Teenage is a stage when kids have to decide their future. They start to learn from their choices, which can be helpful in their practical life, so as parents, we need to support them. I personally try to support my daughter in her career studies.  I never made up my mind about my children's future in a specific field; I always appreciated their research and finding new ways of their interests. Although they are still confused about whether it is the right choice or not, whatever it is, I am with them with a parental advisory that they need to stick to one field and do not wander into others' directives.

In our society, there are many free advisors available in every walk of life; everyone is a master and genius. They try to convince others that the way they have chosen is wrong. They pretend to be the only well-wishers to young ones. They manipulate them to change their path. It is all done in a friendly way, but still, I think it is a forceful act that is not good. Our future will be bright if we apply our theory to our relevant field.

There are few who were never influenced by their surroundings and felt free to live according to their thoughts. This category of geniuses brings the best for themselves and the world as well. Listening to your inner voice is as necessary as all other necessities of our life. Our inner voice never betrays us in our life if we listen to it carefully. There is some confusion between the inner voice and manipulation, and we are the only ones who can differentiate them.  All we need is to judge ourselves, who we are, and what is our requirements for life. We should set out goals and act accordingly. Being focused and consistent brings success, although it is a bit late; it is better late. Patience is the key to victory.

The final words for today: we should provide our children with an environment that brings them a vast range of choices. They should not be limited to some boundaries. On the other hand, parental restriction of right or wrong is a must; parents have their experiences to share. Youngsters may apply those experiences in their own way. So that they can grow and flourish in modern society and make our world more beautiful and safe, free of arms, hate, drugs, terrorism, and all negative things.

Best regards.